1. Be nice for no other reason than niceness itself.
2. Take more deep breaths.
3. Think before you say anything; whether good, bad, or indifferent.
4. When speaking to others, before you speak, ask “how are you?” Try this before you say “how you are.”
5. Recall the last time someone expected you to be perfect and how crummy that felt. Don’t make others feel bad because you hold unreal expectations. This could apply to family members, wait staff in a restaurant, or coworkers.
6. Give people the benefit of the doubt, even if they’re rude or mean. This may be the most difficult one of all.
7. If you’re flustered, think of it like a summer breeze. It will blow through, pass by, and eventually die down. Flustration (the combination of flustered and frustration) is not a permanent state of mind. Sit down, count to ten, close your eyes, and breathe deeply. Flustration feeds on fear. The moment you take charge of your surroundings, you deprive flustration of the oxygen it needs to survive.
8. The hymns which talk about joy coming in the morning or at dawn are beautiful but wrong. Joy can come at any time of day. You don’t need a cup of coffee and a sunrise. You need to be a human being open to life without preconditions. You don’t even need a “happy place”. Joy is not dependent on physical geography. If you have a soul, you can find joy.
9. Take out your mental trash in appropriate ways. Sharing our problems and attacking others are two different ways of coping with stress.
10. Remember, you are not alone. You share the world with others. Be aware of the lives of those around you. People love you and care about you.