1. Take perspective of the world around you. How aware are you of the people, ideas, places and things going on in your general orbit? So often, I see people who are miserable, unhappy, wrapped up in their own anger. Their misery (often self-inflicted) renders them unaware to appreciate any perspective other than their own. Are we living like this?
2. Do the other people in your life believe or feel like you are invested in them as people? To invest in a person (as a human being) you need to develop an emotional perspective. An emotional perspective is more than “seeing what another person thinks”. It’s trying to understand how someone else feels.
3. To get an emotional perspective, ask someone how they feel.
4. Listen actively. Don’t listen to respond. Don’t listen with the intent of saying something smart, witty, or keeping the conversation focused on what you know. Listen to understand what the other person is saying.
5. Listen for shared experiences which can be found within your dialogue partner’s point of view. Don’t let their words go to mental voicemail while you think about what you’re going to say next.